Bravery of Choosing Love

Friday 9th May 2025 Written by Dvonne Loring

Fear is a compelling force that closes our hearts

Trauma has a way of imprisoning us

Scanning for every risk and every danger

This was me for a long, long time

My heart was locked away

It's different now

We live in a world that doesn’t trust

That is guarded

That has hardened

That hides and hurts

Yet I am a self confessed hopeless romantic

This doesn’t make me naive

There are things I won’t know until I do

And there are things I simply never will

Anything can happen at any moment 

Life can bid a tragedy that will change everything

That’s the mystery of Life darlings

Despite this

I choose to move through my life with an open heart

Because it hurts too much to keep it closed

Yes it might keep some of the pain away

But to rob myself of the beauty that wants to pour itself into my being every single day?

That just wouldn't make life worth living

I’m choosing my hard

Living with an unavailable heart is harder

And I’m choosing for it to remain open because it’s worth it

Allowing my heart to blossom toward the world

Risking it to be broken time and time again is worthwhile

Because if I keep it closed and guarded, that will break it too

Only it’ll be slower

More insidious 

And will disconnect me from Life 

Rather than call me into it more deeply 

An open heart doesn’t mean a reckless one

For me, it means I’m choosing to give the benefit of the doubt

It means choosing to trust yourself when it’d be easier to distrust

It means choosing to be curious first instead of cynical 

My romantic idealism is calibrated with my grounded realist discernment

Some may roll their eyes at this

View it as -

Ridiculous

Unrealistic

Irresponsible 

“All of this in the name of ‘love’?” the cynics might question

Yes darlings

Because isn’t Love the whole point of why we’re here?

Not just romantic love but to be Love

It is activism to live with your heart wide open in a world that grooms us to be suspicious and skeptical

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I want to dream and live a life that feels like poetry

A heart-led life

And the beautiful thing is 

I do

Alive

Deep

Present

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My heart is one of the most extraordinary things I have the privilege of experiencing

It’s one of the things I love most about myself

How honoured I am to have the heart that I do

Bearing witness to its capacity -

To hold

To Love

To grieve

To hurt

To shatter

To break open

To repair

To trust

As many times as it needs to

I will never stop allowing Life to fill my heart up

And when others choose to invite me into theirs

Well isn’t that the most humbling of gifts?

xx